What troublesome things they are, non?
My love life has turned to shit, but thats okay. Granted, I've gotten more jerked around in the past month than a 14 year old boys penis, but I can deal. Not to say that it doesn't make me dislike the whole male gender, because it kind of does, but I mean, they really are the lesser species. I don't mean that I like,
hate them or anything, because thats not the case at all, they just all need to learn
WHATS UP. And what's up is this:
- don't promise anything that you don't fully intend on doing. It may sound nice to offer (to do) something, but if you're not going to pull through in the end, no one benefits from it.
- girls like to know they're the only one: before sports, before music, put in a nice place between friends, and last but not least, the only GIRL that you have. Any thought that any of those things come before her, and you won't ever have a happy lady.
- when she says "no", whether it be to sex or anything else, accept it. No amount of booze, drugs, or persuasion should change anything. Respect is the most important thing you can offer any other person, and if you care about a girl, she should be getting that.
- the whole jealousy thing doesn't ever get anyone very far, no matter who does it. Don't make someone else jealous, and don't be jealous - it's hard to do, but it simplifies things, and you are both end up less likely to get hurt.
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EVERYONE has problems. Every single person on the planet has dirty laundry that they don't want to air out, but if you're going to be in a relationship with someone, they have a right to know whats going on in your life. Hiding the things you're ashamed of isn't reassuring to your partner,
ever, and only leads to one person feeling like they're not trusted. You need find a balance in giving and taking, and do so as much as possible.
- if you're lying about something or attempting to cover something up, that generally means it's BAD and you should not be doing it. So, for the sake of everyone, don't.
- "
fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me, fool me three times...." You only get so many chances. I believe that everyone deserves two, but beyond that, if you continue to fuck up, there's only so much that can be done. If messing up and ruining something the first time wasn't enough to teach someone how to do things, it's never going to be any different, no matter how many chances you give them.
Obviously there's more, but that felt like it was the most relevant for me or for the people I know in the past little while.
I'm kind of looking forward to being single. Really, I am. Not to say I would've thrown away a relationship to be on my own, because I never would do that, but when things don't work out, sometimes it's for the best - and I'm not going to try to change something that's meant to be.
It's hard putting everything you have into someone, and then having them throw it back in your face, as though it wasn't good enough. But there's no point in lingering on that - I've learnt my lesson, and thats all that matters!